Bridal Blogger – The First Meltdown – Tuesday Feature

We totally giggled reading this, and even Todd (my hockey loving, football playing partner) thought that this was funny, but also scary. Really!? IT COSTS THAT MUCH FOR LINENS!? I have never heard of that in my LIFE! Anyways, I will let you read all about it…

Wow.  What a week it’s been.  I officially had my first taste of bridal stress, complete with a minor panic attack, a very crazy emotional roller coaster, and quite a bit of exhaustion.  The cause of my woes?  Tablecloths.

Yea, I know.  Pathetic.

A few days ago, I realized I hadn’t checked “find linen rentals” off my to-do list, so my mom and I took a trip down town to this fun little rental place to check out pricing on tablecloths.

We should have known it was going to be a bad day when we walked up to the building and couldn’t even find the front door for a good five minutes. (This was probably our fault.)  When we finally found the door and got over our embarrassment at the amount of time we wasted, we walked inside to find a totally non-inviting warehouse full of tables and chairs and a couple old guys standing around.  Was this the right place?  According to one of the old men, yes, yes it was, and if you just follow the colorful footprints on the floor you’ll find yourself at the wedding rentals.  So on we went, one pink, blue, green, red, yellow step at a time.

We went in through the office door and stepped into a completely different scene.  Gone were the cold cement floors and stacks of storage.  This room was a wonderland of colors and linens and decorated tables.  Inspiration hit me at a hundred miles an hour (or kilometers if you’re Canadian, I guess!) and I was ready to choose my very own tablecloths.  A very sweet woman came in and asked if she could help.  Of course she could! I needed to see everything.

We chatted about the basics for a bit; where would my wedding be located, how many guests, what are my colors and all that fun stuff.  Then we got into the conversation of tablecloths and whether or not I had anything in mind.  So I told her about my vision.  Rustic elegance, I said.  I want simple, beautiful elegance.  Something unique, not overdone.  I want to look back at my wedding 50 years from now and think “my goodness, wasn’t that lovely?” instead of wincing at my choice of decorations.  So please, give me neutrals because neutrals will last forever.
She smiled at my choice.
Gray and ivory.

Off she went to another room to gather a few crisp, freshly pressed gray and ivory tablecloths to place on a “dress-up” table.  She laid out my colors and I immediately knew I had made the right choice.  This was it.  These were the exact tablecloths that would be at my wedding.  *Sigh.* If only life were really that sweet and easy.

After I felt my heart connect with these precious tablecloths, we went over to her desk to start figuring out the numbers.  The excitement was building up.  Oh, how much we were about to save by renting instead of buying!

Two-hundred and sixty-eight guests?  Let’s see, that’s somewhere around 25 tables, give or take a few.  So your total for all the tablecloths, plus the charcoal gray runners, will be . . .

Here it was.  The beautiful number that would make my little frugal heart leap for joy!

About $992.96

……

What.

Lady, you are one fantastic joker.  I mean, truly, it really sounded like you just told me it will cost me almost one thousand dollars for my tablecloths.

Oh.  You’re serious?  Right.

On she went, telling me about all the services they could offer, something about delivering or options to pick up.  I really have no idea what she told me after that number, because I was having a mini heart attack.  All I did was smile and nod like “oh, totally! I spend $1,000 every single day! This is absolutely in my budget!”  

 

 

..Not.

One quick glance at my mom told me she was thinking the exact same thing.  Fortunately the plastered-on smiles we were both reppin’ didn’t seem to phase the sweet sales lady.  We took her business card, thanked her over and over, let her know we’d keep in touch, and out we walked, leaving those fake smiles on until we were far, far away from hearing distance.

Needless to say, the rest of my day was spent online, looking for discount linens and recyle-wedding tablecloths.  Cheap.  I am a DIY budget bride; I refuse to spend $1000 on anything. (Except the photographer, my single exception.)  I spent half the day in one wreck of an emotional state.  Tablecloth worries turned into bridesmaid dress worries turned into ‘did I pick the right wedding dress’ worries turned into my wedding is falling apart.

But alas, super-mom came in and saved the day.  Let me just say, my mother is brilliant.   She can take anything, and I mean anything, that’s falling apart and put it back together  even better than it was in the first place.  (She probably learned this skill from dealing with her daughter’s unreasonable emotions for 21 years…)  My super-mom found tablecloths for my wedding.  The very same colors, and basically the same materials, for just $300.  And we’re buying them, which means we can re-sell them someday and make some of the money back.  Like I said, she’s brilliant.

So even though my first experience of bridal trauma was, well, traumatic, it wasn’t as bad as it could have been.  I’m sure all of you brides have had your fair share of this:

The bright side?  I will never have to experience tablecloth debt, thank you very much.

#13 – The Pocket Dresses – 2013 Wedding Trends

There is nothing better in this world than having a dress that holds all your important things (iPhone, lipstick, cards, and bar change)… trust me. I know.

So when the trend of wedding dresses with pockets came along, I was ecstatic! Gone are the days where your MOH is bogged down with your phone, lipstick, touchups and kleenex. With an ample gown, you can store all of those things in your pockets! Hooray!

Now, I have one fair warning for all those planning on stuffing their pockets full of goodies: Avoid bright coloured items! Heaven forbid your photos coming back with your neon pink phone case showing right through your beautiful dress! Also, if you are going to have things like lipgloss or lipstick in your pockets, throw them in a little ziplock first to avoid any chance of them seeping out on your white gown!

Here are some super cute pocket gowns that are super cute for 2013:

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Anyways lovelies! I can’t wait to share more 2013 trends with you in the coming weeks!

Much love to you all,

Ainsley xoxo

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Blogging Brides – “So many DIYs to do, so little time!” – Tuesday Feature

We love how Emily is so honest about her wedding plans. There is no fear of the unexpected, and a true passion for DIY! (Those flowers!!! :-O)  Take a look at how Emily is coming along with all the plans for her wedding!

(we also blogged yesterday a sneak peek for a real wedding: Derek and Kristie! Check it out: https://ainsleysaffairs.wordpress.com/2012/10/08/sneak-peek-derek-kristie-vainio-thanksgiving-2013/)

 

Here we are at my second week of Bridal Blogging, and I am as busy as I could be! To those of you planning a wedding: have you hit that moment where you realize how much work is left to be done in just a small amount of time?  Well, today marks exactly 5 months until my Big Day, and I’m already starting to feel that anxiousness about all the plans I have left.  There’s nothing more disappointing than marking one thing off your checklist only to realize it doesn’t seem like it really made that much of a difference in the first place. I marked off two major plans this week—making bouquets and registering for gifts—and still feel like I’m behind.  In reality, I’m really not behind, and getting these things done really did help cut down my to-do list.  And, as a bonus, both projects were an (almost) absolute blast!

I went to a hobby store at the beginning of the week because they were having a 50% off sale on their flowers.  Okay, let’s be real, I’m buying fake flowers for my wedding because 1.) silk flowers are just SO much cheaper and 2.) I really don’t care to have my reception smell like a garden.  So if you aren’t super picky about flowers and you want to save money, go silk, especially if you want to keep your bouquet as a keepsake!  Anyway, I bought seven bouquets-worth of flowers for $100 (which is equal to $ 97.4540 Canadian dollars, you know, just in case you were curious.) plus a little extra for decorative ribbon, then went on my way back home to start my little project.

Yea, the word “little” probably isn’t completely accurate.  I will never, ever underestimate the strength of a florist.  Seriously people, I had to use heavy duty garden scissors to cut the stems on these babies.  By the time I’d finished half of the bouquets, my hands were bruising from the amount of pressure it took to chop the thick wires inside those fake stem nightmares.  It was some serious work compared to spray painting vases or putting together a save the date.  But they turned out so lovely, with ivory hydrangeas and mums, and a few splashes of coral in the bridesmaids bouquets.  (I guess you’d like to know, the colors of my wedding are light coral, charcoal gray, and ivory!) I am completely satisfied, and aside from the bruising it was rewarding to know that I created them all by myself!

My next adventure was Registry Day.  The day where Matt and I got to scan a bunch of stuff for other people to buy for us.  You best believe we scanned everything our little hearts desired, from kitchen supplies, to home decorations, to movies and board games.  I have to say, I was proud of him; he was more frugal with the scanner than I was, and kept me from scanning things we probably wouldn’t ever use. (Although I did sneak away once to scan this adorable rolling kitchen shelf.  He said I won’t need it.  I agree to disagree.)   We proceeded to spend five hours walking around our two favorite stores, and by the time we finished we were about ready to collapse right there in the parking lot.  A word of advice about registering?  Wear tennis shoes, or at least something with support.  Otherwise your foot muscles will burn for the next 24 hours.  True story.

It was just so much fun for us to do this together, though.  We turned Registry Day into one long, creative date, instead of making it a duty or a hassle.  We ate breakfast together at Panera Bagel, sipped coffee, and relaxed until we felt prepared for the crazy day.  We laughed about the ridiculous amount of junk we could register for, like foot massagers, donut hole makers, and toilet doilies (like who really needs that stuff?).  I won’t say we didn’t have a few mini-arguments.  You probably will too; not everyone thinks the same way about what items should be on their registry list.  For example, camouflage hunting boots should not be on the registry.  My fiance believes otherwise.   But when it came to the big decisions, it was more exciting than anything else to think that we were getting a glimpse of the things we might own together as a newlywed couple.

When we finally finished registering, we settled in at our favorite book store and talked about how excited we are to spend our lives together.  I know it sounds mushy, but I wouldn’t want it any other way.  As long and stressful as some of this planning can be, I always remember that it’s really not about what flowers I choose or what gifts we’ll receive; it’s about being with my best friend for the rest of my life.

Definitely worth the bruised hands and sore feet, I’d say.

Blogging Bride Tuesdays! – Introducing Emily Shawgo of Fort Wayne, Indiana!

Here in Vancouver, B.C., it is soooo exciting for us to be including someone like Emily and her fiancé Matt in our blog! Coming to us all the way from Fort Wayne, Indiana is so incredibly cool for us, because we get to see and read all the things that make Fort Wayne wonderful for weddings, in contrast to B.C. (We think B.C. is gorgeous, but you should google Fort Wayne: It is SO ADORABLE. gushing!!!! – bugging Todd to go on VayCay to Indiana ASAP ahahaha!) So, without further ado, here is Emily:

Wedding dress, flowers, caterer, reception hall . . . how on earth does anyone choose anything for their wedding with so many things to cover?  Seriously, overwhelming is an understatement when planning a wedding.  I’m sure every bride understands exactly what I’m talking about.

Hi! I’m Emily, and I’m getting married in five..(ahh! five??) months.

My super amazing, irresistibly handsome fiance, Matthew (no sarcasm here, I truly think these things about him and I’m not afraid to brag), and I got engaged back in April during our final semester of college and we’ve been in a frenzy of wedding plans ever since.  Being the extreme planner that I am, I literally had my bridesmaids, churches, colors, theme, photographer, caterer, honeymoon, AND wedding dress picked out within one month of the engagement.  About 90% of everyone that I knew told me I was going too fast and planning too much; that I needed to slow down because I “still had so much time until the wedding.”  Six months later, I still disagree with them.

To all you brides, soon-to-be brides, hope-to-be-soon-to-be-brides out there, I have one thing to tell you.  One thing that I hope you get from my Bridal Tuesday posts, if you don’t get anything else at all.  And that thing is: there is no such thing as planning your wedding too fast.

If I hadn’t started planning as soon as I did, I guarantee that right now, I’d be even more of a mess than I already am trying to plan the most important day of my life.

There is, however, such a thing as planning your wedding too slow.  Obviously.  So I’d like to share some of my experiences with you, maybe to inspire you or give you some input, or even just to encourage you to keep going, because as tired as all the wedding planning will make you, it will be worth it.  I mean, c’mon, all this planning will end in a celebration and union with (hopefully) your favorite person on earth!

So, what crazy, fun, romantic, horrific wedding plans have I experienced thus far?  Well, it feels like just about everything, but I hear it’s just the beginning.  Actually, to be honest, things have gone a lot more smoothly than I thought possible.  Before I had even met Matt, I found the most lovely church to get married in while working with my parents three summers ago.  They own a cleaning business, and I needed money, so I went along with them to clean a few buildings; one of those buildings being St. John’s Lutheran Church.

It’s exactly what I imagined for my wedding.  Stained glass windows, a ‘middle’ aisle, and even a bell that rings every time someone gets married.  How much sweeter could it get?  So, as I cleaned the church every week, I would imagine it was my very own wedding day.  I would walk down the aisle with my feather duster in hand, hum a pretty tune and imagine my future husband standing before me.  Then my parents would walk in and laugh, (as they should have, I mean when I think about it, this is seriously embarrassing.) and tell me my day would come soon enough.  They were right.

After Matt and I got engaged (which, by the way, he did an incredible job of making it the most beautiful proposal. Maybe if you’re lucky I’ll tell the story sometime.) we scheduled the church and made it our first official wedding plan.  Everything just about fell into place after that.  Thank goodness for Pinterest, or I would have had so much trouble organizing and planning my ideas.

One of the main reasons I am so thankful we planned so much ahead of time is the fact that Matt and I have spent a majority of our engagement long distance.  Okay, more like semi-long distance.  I’m from Fort Wayne, Indiana and Matt’s from Indianapolis, so we’re about two hours apart.  It’s really not that bad of a drive, and we see each other almost every weekend, but when it comes to wedding planning it can get a little difficult to keep him involved in everything.  So we spent every moment we could during our last semester in school planning everything that needed to be done together.  I have to say, I’m truly blessed to have a guy that really doesn’t mind being part of the wedding plans.  Sometimes a bride just needs help and support from her fiance and many, if not most, guys cringe at the thought of picking out a theme or outfits for the wedding party.  Matt was even more eager than I was to plan what his guys would be wearing.  Although, this might be because he’s even more of an extreme planner than I am, and that’s saying something.  I’m thankful all the same.  He really is the most incredible guy.  (No offense.  I’m sure all your fiance’s are incredible, too.)

Okay, so if I’ve planned just about everything, what else could I possibly need to do over the next five months?  You all know exactly what else I could possibly do:  everything else!  And that’s where the rest of this Bridal Tuesday blog will come in.  Every Tuesday until the day of my wedding, I will be filling you in on everything else.  The emotional roller coasters, the upcoming bridezilla moments (cause I’ve never had one of those before..ahem…) the excitement about my future marriage, and the intricate details about invitations, table decorations, registering for gifts (CAN’T WAIT.) and the fact that I’ll be putting a dusting feather in my wedding bouquet to remind me of all those cleaning days I spent dreaming about my Big Day.

Welcome to my wedding planning world. 🙂

Emily