Bridal Blogger – From The Heart – Tuesday Feature

It brings be great joy to constantly get to know Emily and her Fiance through her writing. It makes me dream of being there to share with her in their special day. It also brings me great joy to see everything that she is doing as a DIY Everything Bride. I have great pride in seeing her go through the paces of planning a wedding without someone like me (the planner) by her side. She reminds me of all of my friends who have been or are getting married; sharing in the wonderful world of weddings. It saddens me to read the ignorance of “friends” no matter their intentions and not realizing that you should be happy for a friend who is getting married and help as much as possible. If not, be as encouraging as possible. To find out what I am talking about, please please read Emily’s post, and do your very best to comment:

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I’m going to be a little more serious for this post.  Planning a wedding is mostly about the laughs and the fun moments, but it can’t be ignored that there are some pretty mellow moments as well.  Anyway, I guess this post will be less about my plans, and more about some of the feelings I’ve been experiencing this week.  Is that okay?  I hope so.

I’ve spent my whole life dreaming about my wedding day.  I’ll admit, I was one of those girls that frequently thought about my future husband and the life I would live as a “Mrs”.   I grew up drawing pictures of what I thought he might look like.  I wrote in my journals about my dreams for my wedding day and which friends I thought might be standing beside me as I say ‘I do.’  I played dress up wedding in a little white gown my mom made just for me and I would end many of my dreamy days by watching Father of the Bride as often as I could.  I could probably tell you every detail of what I thought my wedding would look like.  But as often as I worked my imagination on these things, it could never, ever prepare me for the real thing.

Six months ago, I said yes to a man who stole my heart so fast I didn’t even have a chance to watch him take it. I knew he was the one after our first date.  Ask my mom; I called her up after our date ended at three in the morning and told her I had just met the man I would marry.
He is everything I have waited for.  I really, truly mean that.   Call it cliche, or ‘cheesy,’ but I believe that all those days spent dreaming about him were worth it.  He is so, so good to me and has gone beyond any of my dreams for what kind of man I had imagined him to be.  Not to make you think he is flawless; he is a man like any other and knows exactly how to push my buttons.  But I know he tries his best to be a man I can respect whole-heartedly–and I do.

(I’m gonna take a second to show you one of the reasons I love him so much.  He’s like, really ridiculously handsome.)

The fact that I am now engaged to this amazing guy still brings butterflies to my stomach.  Six months in and I still wake up in the morning, take a peek at the ring on my left hand and grin as big as I can.  But my thoughts the last couple days have been less about my excitement and more about my frustration—not about the fact that I’m getting married, but about the fact that sometimes these days, it is really hard to share that excitement with other people.

I believe in marriage.  I believe that God created it to last, not just for a few years, but for allyears.  This belief seems to go against the grain of what is the popular thought these days, since divorce is a common option to marital problems.  As I finally plan my own wedding after years and years of pretend, I am forced to think about these things.
I have so many things left to do before the wedding day.  So many projects and shopping trips and meetings.  It puts me in a bit of a ‘wedding fog,’ as I like to call it.  However, even though my wedding is on my mind about 70% of the day, it doesn’t mean I talk about it the whole time.  I was catching up with a friend recently and she asked if we could hang out soon.  Of course! I told her, and I said something about going to a store we were both interested in.  There were a few things I could grab for the wedding there as well, so it was a double win.  Hang out with a friend and take a little stress off the wedding planning.  She said we could go, but on one condition: that it would be the only wedding related thing we would do together, or talk about.

I’m gonna be honest, my feelings were really hurt about this.  It’s not like I was planning on talking about my wedding the whole time, but I felt like I would be in the wrong to even bring it up.  But I also understand that a lot of times for single people it can be difficult to hear about weddings; I’ve been there, and I know it is hard sometimes.

So this is where my thinking kicked in.  I’ve been in situations like this one more than once, where I bring up my wedding and people just don’t want to hear about it.  It makes it really hard to feel happy that I’m getting married.  I am so excited to marry this man, and I want to tell everyone how excited I am, but how can I do that when I feel bad about sharing this excitement?  Have any of you brides had anything like this before?  I know I am probably rambling a bit too much, but honestly out of all the wedding things on my mind this week, even through realizing that I have SO much left to do, my disappointment at feeling restricted in my joy has been on my mind the most.  Engagement should be such a happy time (and trust me, for the most part it really is) and I’m ready to lose the stressful aspects; physically and emotionally.  If anyone else has had similar feelings or simply feels overwhelmed with the emotions involved in planning a wedding, leave a comment!  What better way to bring some joy into the wedding planning than to share it with another bride-to-be?

But here is my thought.

All this wedding planning, all this money and time spent, means nothing to me if I don’t believe it’s going to last.  So when people get annoyed with me when I talk about my wedding plans, or when they tell me they don’t even want to be involved in the planning, it makes me..well, sad.  I don’t talk about all the plans I’m making so I can brag about the fact that I’m getting married or boast about whatever creative decorations I plan on using.  I talk about all the plans I’m making because these plans are the beginning of a lifetime with my best friend.  Since I believe marriage is a forever thing, then all of these plans mean more than a wedding day to me.  The wedding day is just the beginning, isn’t it?  I mean, we make all of these plans because of the marriage that is about to be woven together, not because we just decided we wanted to have a party in a white dress (at least I hope…).

I guess what I’m trying to say is, to those of you who have felt discouraged during your engagement when you feel like it’s hard to share the excitement with others, don’t worry.   It’s not about that.  Think about when you were little, and you dreamed about your wedding day.  Well, it’s finally your turn to be a bride, regardless of how excited people are for that.  It’s your turn to marry the man you’ve been waiting for.  So tell him that.  This wedding is about being with him after all, isn’t it?  He’s the one you should share the excitement with the most, out of everybody else.

#13 – The Pocket Dresses – 2013 Wedding Trends

There is nothing better in this world than having a dress that holds all your important things (iPhone, lipstick, cards, and bar change)… trust me. I know.

So when the trend of wedding dresses with pockets came along, I was ecstatic! Gone are the days where your MOH is bogged down with your phone, lipstick, touchups and kleenex. With an ample gown, you can store all of those things in your pockets! Hooray!

Now, I have one fair warning for all those planning on stuffing their pockets full of goodies: Avoid bright coloured items! Heaven forbid your photos coming back with your neon pink phone case showing right through your beautiful dress! Also, if you are going to have things like lipgloss or lipstick in your pockets, throw them in a little ziplock first to avoid any chance of them seeping out on your white gown!

Here are some super cute pocket gowns that are super cute for 2013:

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Anyways lovelies! I can’t wait to share more 2013 trends with you in the coming weeks!

Much love to you all,

Ainsley xoxo

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Blogging Brides – “So many DIYs to do, so little time!” – Tuesday Feature

We love how Emily is so honest about her wedding plans. There is no fear of the unexpected, and a true passion for DIY! (Those flowers!!! :-O)  Take a look at how Emily is coming along with all the plans for her wedding!

(we also blogged yesterday a sneak peek for a real wedding: Derek and Kristie! Check it out: https://ainsleysaffairs.wordpress.com/2012/10/08/sneak-peek-derek-kristie-vainio-thanksgiving-2013/)

 

Here we are at my second week of Bridal Blogging, and I am as busy as I could be! To those of you planning a wedding: have you hit that moment where you realize how much work is left to be done in just a small amount of time?  Well, today marks exactly 5 months until my Big Day, and I’m already starting to feel that anxiousness about all the plans I have left.  There’s nothing more disappointing than marking one thing off your checklist only to realize it doesn’t seem like it really made that much of a difference in the first place. I marked off two major plans this week—making bouquets and registering for gifts—and still feel like I’m behind.  In reality, I’m really not behind, and getting these things done really did help cut down my to-do list.  And, as a bonus, both projects were an (almost) absolute blast!

I went to a hobby store at the beginning of the week because they were having a 50% off sale on their flowers.  Okay, let’s be real, I’m buying fake flowers for my wedding because 1.) silk flowers are just SO much cheaper and 2.) I really don’t care to have my reception smell like a garden.  So if you aren’t super picky about flowers and you want to save money, go silk, especially if you want to keep your bouquet as a keepsake!  Anyway, I bought seven bouquets-worth of flowers for $100 (which is equal to $ 97.4540 Canadian dollars, you know, just in case you were curious.) plus a little extra for decorative ribbon, then went on my way back home to start my little project.

Yea, the word “little” probably isn’t completely accurate.  I will never, ever underestimate the strength of a florist.  Seriously people, I had to use heavy duty garden scissors to cut the stems on these babies.  By the time I’d finished half of the bouquets, my hands were bruising from the amount of pressure it took to chop the thick wires inside those fake stem nightmares.  It was some serious work compared to spray painting vases or putting together a save the date.  But they turned out so lovely, with ivory hydrangeas and mums, and a few splashes of coral in the bridesmaids bouquets.  (I guess you’d like to know, the colors of my wedding are light coral, charcoal gray, and ivory!) I am completely satisfied, and aside from the bruising it was rewarding to know that I created them all by myself!

My next adventure was Registry Day.  The day where Matt and I got to scan a bunch of stuff for other people to buy for us.  You best believe we scanned everything our little hearts desired, from kitchen supplies, to home decorations, to movies and board games.  I have to say, I was proud of him; he was more frugal with the scanner than I was, and kept me from scanning things we probably wouldn’t ever use. (Although I did sneak away once to scan this adorable rolling kitchen shelf.  He said I won’t need it.  I agree to disagree.)   We proceeded to spend five hours walking around our two favorite stores, and by the time we finished we were about ready to collapse right there in the parking lot.  A word of advice about registering?  Wear tennis shoes, or at least something with support.  Otherwise your foot muscles will burn for the next 24 hours.  True story.

It was just so much fun for us to do this together, though.  We turned Registry Day into one long, creative date, instead of making it a duty or a hassle.  We ate breakfast together at Panera Bagel, sipped coffee, and relaxed until we felt prepared for the crazy day.  We laughed about the ridiculous amount of junk we could register for, like foot massagers, donut hole makers, and toilet doilies (like who really needs that stuff?).  I won’t say we didn’t have a few mini-arguments.  You probably will too; not everyone thinks the same way about what items should be on their registry list.  For example, camouflage hunting boots should not be on the registry.  My fiance believes otherwise.   But when it came to the big decisions, it was more exciting than anything else to think that we were getting a glimpse of the things we might own together as a newlywed couple.

When we finally finished registering, we settled in at our favorite book store and talked about how excited we are to spend our lives together.  I know it sounds mushy, but I wouldn’t want it any other way.  As long and stressful as some of this planning can be, I always remember that it’s really not about what flowers I choose or what gifts we’ll receive; it’s about being with my best friend for the rest of my life.

Definitely worth the bruised hands and sore feet, I’d say.

#14 – The Party within the Party – 2013 Wedding Trends

It is true that most people like to party. Each group of people has different ways of partying, but as a whole, society just loves to get down and jiggy with it. For the 2013 wedding season, if you are planning on attending a wedding, and you are sober/capable of still partying, expect to attend a “Post Wedding Reception Party” or better known as “The After Party”.

This all too familiar event is growing in popularity. Gone are the days where the young and hip hop to the closest bar. Oh heck no! 2013 is going to herald in the huge, over the top “after parties”, filled with more decor, more fun, radder music, and generally an atmosphere that granny doesn’t enjoy (unless your granny is Betty White, in which case she better come cause she is the life of most shindigs!).

I personally love the after party. It is where myself, the coordinator, actually gets to have a bit more fun. Don’t get me wrong, I love planning and executing all of my events, but there is nothing sweeter than having a glass of champagne with the rowdies and kick the feet back once all the tidying up is completed. Take a look at some photos to give you an idea of what to plan for your after party:

Anyways, now that my mouth is drooling looking at all that gorgeous food and fun, I should probably go make lunch or something to snack on! Please check out our wedding wednesday post, and stay tuned for more trends coming your way!

Much love to you all!

Ainsley xoxo

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Chris + Kara – True Love Story – July 2011 Wedding

I was so thrilled to do the “day – of” services for my dear friends Chris & Kara, as they embarked on the next chapter of their lives together. They are really the sweetest couple, and they have an amazing love story. Check out some of the stunning photos of this gorgeous couple, their wedding, and how she describes it all down at the bottom of the blog!

From The Bride:

About us: Chris and I met at a local summer camp when we were about 14 years old. After a couple of summers of  being friends only at camp, we started to hang out during the year and started to date May of 2002. I left for university in Toronto after graduation in 2003 and we decided to do whatever we could to make our relationship work through the long distance. There were moments of doubt and glorious days spent together on school vacations and somehow we made it work. Once I came back home again in 2008, we took a year of living in the same time zone together before deciding to move in together. In June 2009 we found a basement suite and started the next chapter of our lives together – finally in one place! Of course, after 7 years of being a couple we had many questions about when we would be getting married but those curious folks (and I!) were just going to have to wait a bit longer before Chris decided it was time to take that leap…

The Proposal: I have to warn all you readers out there, this is not an extremely romantic proposal story, but it’s mine and Chris’ and I don’t think I’d change a thing about it! January 2010 – hints were being made and I was starting to catch on so I figured that with my birthday only a few days away that I’d be getting a  nice birthday gift this year! But, my birthday came and went, then Valentine’s Day passed and I was starting to wonder when that ring was going to present itself! March started to get busy and with our opposite work schedules Chris and I weren’t seeing each other very much. We made a point of planning a date night Saturday March 13th. After work and a couple of social engagements. I came home and started doing the laundry. At the time, our laundry room had a tiny window that looked out to the pathway leading to our door. I saw Chris approaching with a few groceries and he smiled first at our cat sitting in the window then at me. He came in the door, placed the groceries on the laundry room floor and made me stop putting clothes in the washing machine. He started to tell me some wonderfully sweet things and gave me a kiss. At this point I know whats coming (and can’t believe he’s going to propose while I’m doing the laundry!) and he leads me into the spare room of our basement suite where he’s had the ring hiding. Chris got down on his knees (yes, both for some reason!) and asked me to be his wife – and of course I said yes! The groceries he’d bought were for dinner and he proceeded to cook us a delicious dinner! Like I said at the beginning, it wasn’t a huge, overly planned proposal, but it was from the heart, simple, and low key which sums us up in a nutshell.

The Planning: Since we were engaged in March 2010 and knew that we wanted a summer wedding, we decided fairly early on that we were not prepared to plan a wedding in 4 months time. So we opted to get married in 2011. The first thing we agreed on was the location. Having met at summer camp and knowing that that camp had recently been converted into a public park, it was without a doubt a unanimous decision and the perfect place to have our ceremony and reception. Since I now had over a year to put the wedding together, I had lots of time to think about food, decor, music, etc. I did attend a Bridal Show in January 2011 but since I already had most of the major decisions made by then, I found it very overwhelming and slightly unnecessary! Once the date was chosen, we booked the halls at Kwomais Point Park, chose our minister who was a family friend, chose our colours (green for Chris and pink for me!), chose our wedding party, found outifts for the men while Christmas shopping, and started scouring craigslist for good deals on things we could use. I found our candy buffet jars and scoops from another bride, bought an entire roll of tulle for the decor, found a florist with decent prices, ordered bulk gerbera daisies from Safeway (which with a couple of friends created centerpieces and window decoration in the green wine bottles my mom found at the thrift shop), collected picture frames on sale also for centerpieces and got my dad on making collages of photos of both Chris and myself growing up in lieu of a slide show. We decided to save money on a DJ and instead put together a playlist on the compute which one of our groomsmen put together for us. There was a woman at my church who I knew I could trust with making great food so she and her business partner came together to give me a great deal on our finger foods for the reception. My cousin’s husband is a photographer and he graciously agreed at our annual family camping trip to take on our wedding even though they live in Edmonton! My mom made my dress, I wore her veil, and other than the maid of honour who made her own dress, my mother also sewed the other bridesmaids dresses, the flower girl’s dress, and her own outfit! We bought Chris a suit that he would be able to wear again if he should ever need to. Everything was falling into place quite nicely! Around February I was introduced to  Ainsley of Idea! Weddings and Events through our friend whom she had started dating and when I discovered that she was a wedding coordinator I asked her if she’d like to assist with out wedding day. Chris and I had most of the choices made and decor plans in place, but it was great to have Ainsley available on the day of the wedding and the weeks leading up to the big day. She helped me pick my hair extentions (more stressful than you might imagine!) and helped with some of the tedious cutting and pasting of the various DIY projects I had on the go. I had a number of family members and friends from out of town who wanted to help with decorating so that became the team that Ainsley was able to direct and manage on the day of the wedding. All in all the planning process was stressful but really not that bad absolutely worth it! We planned a wedding that was just “us”. It was a day filled with love, family, and fun. I would not change a thing about the wedding – except perhaps making it last longer!

#19 – Groom’s Lounge – 2013 Wedding Trends

It’s true!

The men in your life might be starting to take more of an interest in the wedding plans! (shocker, right!?) Have no fear, however, because that means less work for you, and more out of his pocket than yours, or whoever your financier is! (still probably you! hehe)

Things like a “grooms lounge”, “grooms cake”, your fiancé taking a sudden picky interest in his ring, and elaborate gifts for your guy, are all part of the new trends we are seeing for next year. Even some wedding shows are featuring “special” areas just for your significant other! Anca’s Bridal (Langley, B.C.) even had a grooms lounge at their recent new show!

With all that being said, here are some trends for mens that we think are cute, and TOTALLY hot right now!

As you can see, things like scotch and cigar stations, barber shop straight razor shaves, couches and cow leather are all so totally great for your special guy! Wouldn’t you want your man to have something to do at the wedding that makes him super happy? Somewhere to go with his buddies and have a few on the rocks?

Stay tuned for tomorrows post with another new trend that is classic, yet can be done in SO many fresh new ways!

love you all! Ainsley xoxo